After working with women for several years, I have learned that it’s not only food habits that are essential for helping women reach their goals, but mindset habits and self-perception are even more important. Whatever self-talk you allow to repeat over and over in your head will become the beliefs you hold about yourself.
Too many of us hold negative, unkind and toxic beliefs about ourselves. One of the questions I often ask in my coaching sessions is, “If I asked you to list all the things you love, how long would it take for you to mention yourself?” It’s a sobering question.
I believe self-esteem—or self-love—comes from a place of certainty in your personal, unique, priceless value and potential (and we are all uniquely priceless and filled with enormous potential). For me, it is founded on the Bible’s description of how God views me: His precious child made for unimaginable goodness.
Once we begin to build on that 10-out-of-10 view that God has of us and start believing it ourselves, we can conquer any challenge and achieve pretty much anything. Why? Because we know our value isn’t based on our performance—it is already set super high. Thus we learn to approach everything in life knowing our high value and potential.
One way to build on this positive, grounded self-perception is to find a new challenge or face a personal fear and crush it.
Last year, I met a young mum at a camp where I was running workshops, who had a dream of completing a triathlon. At the time, she hadn’t started training because she wasn’t sure she could do it. She had however, in the previous year, gone from not being able to swim to learning how to and swimming multiple laps at once!
Once we worked through some limiting beliefs she held about herself and tapped into her potential, she started to believe even before she saw any evidence she could complete the triathlon. She was ready to set a goal and start training as soon as she went home from the camp! By the end of the week, her friends were calling her “triathlete”, a beautiful example of support and reinforcing the new belief about herself in order to achieve her goal.
So what are you waiting for? Start believing you are truly amazing and then go and pick something in which to challenge yourself and build your potential!
Some new things to try:
Active passions: Rowing, stand-up paddle boarding, kite-surfing, skydiving, ballroom dancing, rollerskating (apparently it’s back in!), cycling, snowboarding, rockclimbing or waterskiing
Exercise-related: 10 push-ups on your toes, unassisted pull-ups, back squat 1.5 times your bodyweight, run a marathon or half-marathon, do a triathlon, enter a Tough Mudder or similar endurance challenge events
Others: Sign up for an online cooking course, master a new skill such as sewing or gardening, face a fear you have and overcome it!