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10 easy ways to regain your sparkle

By Meg Bignell 2 min read

Worn out by motherhood? Here are some simple things you can do to bring the skip back to your step

Firstly, I don’t think anyone should feel obligated to be sparkly all the time. Even the most positive people or the happiest of relationships have days when everything’s a bit blah. Beating yourself up for sub-par sparkle will only serve up more meh.

Women in particular have to factor in all those hormones that cycle around, tipping you off your happy bike with tedious regularity. Waning enthusiasm is part of human nature, and if we didn’t have the droopy days, the good ones wouldn’t be so good.

That said, here are 10 strategies I deploy if I feel my bundle dropping. (I’m no expert so proceed with caution.)

1. Sleep

This one’s obvious. I’m still trying to make up for the sleep deficit that comes with having three children under four, so if I slip behind on the snooze hours, everything suffers. Clean sheets help, but don’t get too fussy about sheets or other things in the bedroom department will suffer. It’s a tricky balance.

2. Get your hair done

Sure-fire instant sparkler. Unless (as I recently experienced) someone overdoes the toner and you walk out with lavender-coloured hair. “Mum! Why is your hair purple?” Go to the eyebrow bar after your hair appointment for an extra sparkle-
boost.

3. Wash the car

A grubby, smelly car makes me feel dysfunctional.

4. Don’t buy those single-seater recliner chairs unless you’re moving into a nursing home

Passion killers. Those chairs eliminate the possibility of any late-night couch snuggling and are the step before separate beds. Stay on the couch with your partner when you watch telly, side by side, preferably touching.

5. Be a decent person

Don’t lose yourself to forced selflessness, but if you stay kind, do the right thing, be honest, don’t succumb to unnecessary gossip, read to your children and leave the loo tidy for the next person—you’ll feel better about yourself. Self-respect shows in people’s faces—you can see it in the mirror and reflected in the people around you.

6. Stay engaged

Do stuff. Connect with your community, read the papers, listen to music, read books, go to the theatre and to your local agricultural show. Ignore the ironing and fill yourself up with things to talk about.

7. Go outdoors

I’m very lucky to live on a farm with space for a garden so I’m always outside, but recently I walked the Milford Track in New Zealand with my husband and a group of friends and it was the best. You can’t help but feel alive and sparkly and passionate when you’re immersed in such beauty. (And when you’ve left the children behind.)

8. Leave time for your favourite things

Writing, gardening and singing are my things. If I can’t find time for them I am irritable and unpleasant and very un-sparkly.

9. Wear sparkly shoes

I have a pair of blue sequined Converse Chuck Taylors. I’m way too old for them and I’m pretty sure they don’t incite passion in my husband, but when I wear them I always have a happy time.

10. It’s ok

Don’t worry if you’re not REALLY CHEERY and BUBBLING with JOY all the time!!!!!!! (See how unsettling it is.)


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Print a few copies and fill one out each day (or week) to remind you to find things to be grateful for in your day.

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Meg Bignell has written three short films and her latest novel is titled "The Sparkle Pages". She lives with her three children and (one) husband on a dairy farm on Tasmania’s east coast.


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