Would you pay your children to do chores?
Sydney, New South Wales
I pay my kids to do chores. Some say chores are a responsibility children should do without pay and that kids should do them anyway, but mine wouldn’t. I finally got my kids to help with chores by implementing a point system: the amount of money they get depends on how many jobs they do in a week. They do the job and they get paid accordingly. Different levels of pay are associated with different tasks. So if they want to earn more, then they work harder, do more jobs and get more money.
My daughter is eight years old and my son is nine, and they have really gotten motivated since we started using incentives, or as others may say, since we started bribing them! It is working for us. Finally, my kids are so keen to help out and do jobs around the house. I am loving it. They are sweeping the floor, emptying and loading the dishwasher, making their beds, vacuuming and more.
I think giving kids pocket money gives them an understanding of the value of money. By giving my children pocket money, it helps them learn how much things cost and in doing so, teaches the value of money. The pocket money goes straight into their savings account so they are learning about savings. They can see how putting regular small amounts of their pocket money away each week results in being able to treat themselves to something big that they want at the end of the year.
I also think pocket money is teaching kids that if they work hard, they will reap the rewards. I think it contributes to a good work ethic and I hope it will inspire them to become entrepreneurial: if you put in the effort you will get a reward.
Sydney, New South Wales
Children should not be educated with a return. Giving children chores within your household teaches responsibility and independence; giving money to reward the child is robbing them of understanding the purpose of these key fundamental lessons in life. Giving money to your child to take the rubbish out, clean their room or cut the grass is to say, “Only through work you will be rewarded.”
Money is a gift. As a parent, you should love your child and show this without them having to do something for you. It’s great for a child to help around the house but money, in my opinion, is not the way to go. We should be giving money because of love not because of slavery.
Children are a blessing and should be treated as so. If you communicate with your child and give them the ability to understand why their chores are important as a family and are a gift—because of the love of helping the family, and being a part of it—they would want to help.
Money should be hidden and placed in a bank until they are old enough to access it. This is important to our Italian culture, as we believe money is the root of all evil. If you start raising a child where they get used to receiving money for every move they make, you are encouraging a greedy child and greed is one of the seven deadly sins from a religious point of view.